How to find peace in a broken relationship? “But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.”
(James 3:17-18 KJV)
Are you someone who is going through a broken relationship right now? How are you dealing with it? Do you think you can mend and do it on your own? If you have put your faith and trust in God and have peace about it, then I praise God for you. But if you are someone reading this and is losing hope, because you feel like you can’t go on anymore, then keep reading.
There are so many situations that we have to deal with, and one of the hardest things to deal with is a broken relationship. And a lot of times we thought we could fix it on our own and feel happy again. But sadly we made it worse just trying to mend it on our own. I want to first say that relationships have to be two ways. It is a give and take deal. No one should just keep on giving and the other just keep taking. A relationship like this is heading for disaster.
Every relationship should be first founded on the principles of God’s Word (Ephesians 5:22-33; 6:1-4; 6:5-9). Please take time to read the Book of Ephesians. It will be a great guide for you on how to handle relationships in such a way that would be pleasing to God.
Any relationship we have must have mutual love, respect, assistance, purity, humility, submissiveness, and development of a gentle and quiet spirit. Without these general principles, I guarantee you, relationships are bound for brokenness. Thankfully God has provided for us a guide on how to have a successful relationship. But for those who are going through a broken relationship now, I want to share these encouragements from the Word of God.
How to find peace? Know who you are in Christ
It is very important to know who we are in Christ. If we are secured in the love of God through His Son Jesus, there should not be any need for validation from other people. When we know Christ in our heart, and our relationship with Him is secure, we can be better also in our treatment toward others. Whether it is a spouse, children, friends or anyone we have a relationship with. When we know how God really loves us, we can love others also the way that God loves us.
It is impossible though to not get hurt when we love sincerely. But even so, just knowing the love of God for us, we can still heal from the hurt and keep going with life. When we are truly secured in the love of God, we can better let go of those who have hurt us. We don’t have to go through too much pain for a long time. God in His love and mercy, “He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3 KJV).
When you put your faith and trust in the Lord Jesus, nothing can separate you from His love. He is a true love that will never disappoint you. It says in the Book of Romans 8:38-39 KJV- “For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
I used to be insecure, and always worried about my family, friends and anyone I know would one day not love me anymore. Not until I came to know Christ in a personal way, and knowing God’s Word, did I begin to feel better.
My fears and worries were flooded by the amazing love of God for me. I am secured in God’s love, I feel very special and I hold to God’s promises for me. I know He will never abandon me. His love and care I can rely on. His peace and comfort gives me joy to live my life and purpose.
If anyone fails in his or her relationships, it is because he or she failed in his or her spiritual life. It will neither be from a lack of divine grace and love, nor from external force or overwhelming adversity, but from their own neglect to remain in Christ Jesus.
Only in Christ Jesus is God’s love revealed, and only in Him do we experience it. Only as we remain in Christ Jesus as our Lord can we have the certainty that we will never be separated from God’s love.
How to find peace?Let go and trust God
A lot of times in broken relationships, we tend to keep holding on to a situation that is not beneficial to us anymore. We keep on trying to solve it when it is actually time to let go and trust God. Sometimes, when you have done everything you know how and in accordance with God’s Word, and still nothing is happening, it may be because the other person has not done their part to be better.
When this is the case, it is time to let go, and allow God to do a working process in the heart of the other person. We just simply need to put our trust in God.
In the Book of Matthew 11:28 KJV says- “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” This passage is Jesus’ gracious invitation to all “who are weary and burdened” with the troubles of life and the sins of their own human nature.
By coming to Jesus, becoming His servant and obeying His direction, He will free you from your insurmountable burdens and give you rest, peace and His Holy Spirit to lead you through life. What trials and cares you carry will be borne with His help and grace.Psalm 9:9-10 KJV says- “The Lord also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. And they that know thy name will put their trust in thee: for thou, LORD, hast not forsaken them that seek thee.” It doesn’t matter how oppressed you are in your situation, you can always come to God for refuge. God will absolutely cover His loving arms around you when you call to Him for help. You can rest assured that God will never forsake you in your deepest times of troubles.