Family is a group of one or more parents and their children living together as a unit. It is the single most important influence in a child’s life. From their first moments of life, children depend on parents and family to protect them and provide for their needs.
Family form a child’s first relationships. Families have a crucial role in social development. Parents bear the primary responsibility for education and socialization of children as well as instilling values of citizenship and belonging in the society.
It is important to surround ourselves with family for support and comfort in both times of joy and distress. Studies have shown that having a supportive relationships is a strong protective factor against mental illness and helps to increase our mental well-being.
Having a strong bond in the family makes it easier to go through difficulties in life, because you will always have that support. For example in my family, we are far from being perfect! But one thing special that we have is that we have that strong bond that no matter what happens, we stick to each other.
What type of relationship do you have with your family? Having a family is not at all easy. In fact so many have struggled to stay together, and some to a breaking point of separation. Maybe you are one of those who are going through pain right now, because you have a broken family. Or maybe you are suffering loneliness, because you feel like neglected. Maybe you are trying to cope the anxiety of separation in your family.
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I care about your situation, I know how it feels when the family unit is dysfunctional because mine was like that. We all dream of a perfect family. But is there really such a thing as a perfect family? No! Absolutely none. If there is or even half close to being perfect then maybe those family put a ton of efforts to make it looked that way.
Family is a home. We think of a home as a building, but it is actually the family. Let me ask you something. What is the real reason that you want to go home from work or traveling? Is it to be with your family? Of course!
The Latin root word for home is actually the same word we use for human being, person and people. At it’s very core home is where not just your heart is, but the hearts of those you love and trust. This is why most of our homes are adorned with photos on the wall.
I still remember the time when my mother was on the edge of wanting to leave my father when my brother and I were still small, because of sickness and feeling hopeless. I can still remember my request to my mother, to please do not leave dad, because my brother and I will not have a home to go to anymore a so called family. She realized the damaging effect it would bring to her children, so she decided not to.
You see when a man and a woman create a family they are creating a home for their children to grow up. And the home they create should be a safe environment so that love, affection and strong bond of relationship can grow deeply.
How can a parents create a safety net for their children?
First both parents must not allow their children to see loud arguments and fights. Parents must keep in mind that the loud tone of their voices will cause a damaging effect on a child. In a way I am blessed to never hear or watch my parents argues and fights. I’m sure they had those moments. But they always managed to avoid fighting or argue in front of my brother and I.
I can remember asking my mother if she ever had any arguments or fights with my father. She said of course we had arguments and fights, but we avoided all we could to let you and your brother to grow up in a peaceful home so that both of your state of mind are not disturbed.
In other words what my mother really told me was that they knew ahead of time that if they fight in front of their children, it will not be good for the mental well-being.
My conclusion here is that for parents it is not enough to have all the money and house and whatever else material things you can provide for your children. But parents must provide time and every effort to give safety not only for physical well-being of a child but especially for mental health. Children will be watching and they will respond to any environment you raise them in whether good or bad.
Now it’s your turn to do what is best for your family. Take the necessary steps to eliminate toxic environment and replace it with peaceful interactions, affections, love and building a strong bond with your children.
Your children will thank you for it later for raising them in a warm environment and it will be pass on to their future children as well. That will be your greatest legacy you can leave to your children.
If you are going through crisis in your family right now and need help, please connect with me in any of my social media links and let us have a chat.
Maybe you are a daughter or a son and have some questions you need help with, I am here to listen. You are not alone, and there is help! Thanks for reading and don’t forget to follow so you will be updated with more important topics.
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