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Love is the answer. How to show love effectively? There are four ways you can show your love effectively to someone which has been tested and works in my own life. I have learned that love is the most important thing to have in the world 🌎. It is above and beyond that each one of us need and want.
It can be very disappointing at times when you love deeply and ended up getting hurt later on. But do not stop loving. I encourage all of us to love more 💜. Love is very essential to every human needs. We absolutely don’t exist without love. It is an innate feeling that we are born with. God put it in our hearts.
We live and breath because of God’s love in us. Therefore we must nurture this love and not allow it to die. God is love and as he is living in each of our hearts let us love more deeply and show it effectively.
Listen: Be a good listener
Being an actual good listener requires that you not only listen to the words that your partner is saying but also actively try to understand their perspective. This can be incredibly difficult, especially if you feel that you need to defend yourself. But, the truth is, to be a better listener, you need to empathize with your partner and truly understand their point of view and their feelings.
Honestly, listening is really hard. Many of us feel that when our partners are talking to us about a concern of theirs that we immediately need to fix it. And while, a lot of the time, we should be working with our partner to address any concerns or issues that come up, being a good listener suspends the problem-solving process.
Sometimes our partners don’t need anything “fixed,” sometimes they simply want to know that they are heard and acknowledged by their partner. So, while you are listening to your partner, focus on actually listening to them — the problem solving can come later, and it can be done together.
Being a good listener requires you to, well, actually listen. I know, big revelation there, but it is harder to do than people think. Actually listening to someone means focusing on them and what they are saying — this means no distractions.
This can be incredibly difficult for many of us, especially because a lot of us are raised doing many things at one time. But making the effort to show your partner that you are devoting all of your attention to listening to them can instantly make you seem like the best listener ever.
Open: Be open and don’t hide anything
Try to be as honest and open as possible when sharing your feelings and thoughts with your partner, and ask them to do the same in return. Honesty is a cornerstone of healthy relationships. Don’t be afraid of making emotional mistakes. Opening up is a journey, and there are going to be missteps.
Opening up to others works both ways. You will get to share your positive and negative emotions with others, and you will also allow them to do the same with you. This helps deepen your personal relationships with both friends and your partner. However, what happens if you are scared to do so?
What happens if you’re afraid of being vulnerable, of allowing yourself to become emotionally available to others only to hurt later on? Such thoughts are entirely normal and common. Some people simply find it too overwhelming to openly express their various feelings. Yet, at the same time, trying to save yourself from the potential negative consequences can also lead to negative consequences.
Your partner is one of the closest people to you. In a healthy relationship, they will be there for the good and the bad, the best and the worst. They will be there to pick you up when you’re down, and lift you up even further when you’re feeling good. Yet many of us stop ourselves from experiencing the benefits of an emotionally open relationship. We shut ourselves off even from our partners, fearing the vulnerability from doing so.
Don’t be hard on yourself, and have understanding for your partner’s mistakes too. Welcome them as a means to understand more about each other.
Validate: Express value on the relationship
Telling someone your feelings and thoughts on your relationship being very important is very necessary. By validating each other’s feelings comes with commitment as well. You commit to each other because it’s important to you. You will be there for each other no matter what happened. You will commit to be strong for each other when one has each bad moments or low self esteem.
You value and cherish every moment you have wether a few minutes talk on the phone or a long days of vacation together. In simple words you don’t take each other for granted and the time you have spent together. You treat each more precious than what gold or diamonds you have. You simply can’t breathe without each other that’s how much value you have for each other.
You also value each conversations. You will have disagreement in between but it doesn’t mean that each opinions don’t matter. You have to acknowledge each other’s importance of opinions also. It’s a way to also do self check wether or not some things in us emotionally needs adjustment and be willing to work on it.
It is healthy in a relationship to be able to affirm and acknowledge each other’s emotions without judgement. It will allow you to grow maturely in a relationship not only deeply in love but with trust and respect for each other.
Earnest: Be serious and zealous in intention, purpose, or effort
Now you’ve finally got to this point. You have listened, opened up and validate each other now it’s time to be earnest. Be serious no playing games, you are zealous to accomplish things together and the purpose for which both of you should be together. It’s not a yours or mine decisions to make anymore, it’s ours. You make plans together, you make decisions together and are both serious to get it done.
Earnestness as a quality one should seek to acquire, as in being honest, sincere, sober, and serious. I have heard people in the past who are in a relationship with someone said “Will try it out if it works good if it doesn’t then find another one”. Hmmmm? I really got annoyed by that statement because it shows that the mind is not serious to begin with.
Just like buying a candy that you are not sure what the flavor is like trying it and if it’s good eat it if not throw it away. Why not know ahead of time find out what it’s like and make sure you really like it, buy it, eat it and enjoy instead of wasting your money? It doesn’t always work out this way but at least you have saved yourself time, effort and money and from even getting hurt.
Being serious in your relationship and have a firm mindset of what you and your partner want to accomplish will brought you deeply closer to each other. You will be earnest in taking time, effort, emotionally in tune with each other. You will always do your best to find time to make each other happy and appreciated. There will be no dull moment because you are always there for each other during the good times and bad.
I hope you enjoyed reading this and if you do please leave me a comment, I really appreciate you taking the time to read.
